Thursday, December 27, 2018


Disagreements.  Nobody should disagree with me as I am always right - or as my friend Gary says - if I want your opinion I will give it to you. Sometimes I am not sure he is kidding when he says that but that is a tale for another time.

Recently General James Mattis, the Secretary of Defense for the U.S.A., resigned his position because he has policy disagreements with POTUS 45. 25% of our federal government is currently shutdown because of disagreements between POTUS45 and members of Congress over the building of a wall for border security which POTUS45 is convinced will stop the flow of drugs as well as eliminate the drug dealers, rapists, gang members and other human detritus Trump is trying to convince us Mexico is sending to assault the U.S.A.

There seems to be basic disagreement over how many illegals are crossing the border these days as well. So many disagreements. The only thing the involved parties can seem to agree on is that there is disagreement.

Disagreement resolution has three potential outcomes - one of the  parties wins outright, a compromise is reached, no agreement or compromise is able to be agreed upon and thus there is no resolution (sort of an agree to disagree). Of course the magnitude of the disagreement gives different weight to any outcome.
Does the disagreement involve armed conflict? Is the disagreement between two individuals? Groups? Nation states? All of those impact the attempt at resolution.

How do you approach a disagreement or attempt to resolve a disagreement? I'd start by keeping an open mind. You need to recognize the other side has what they deem to be valid reasons resolution in their favor. All involved need to listen and carefully consider other points of view. You need to genuinely want to resolve the disagreement. And, you must be willing to accept the decision of the mediator/facilitator if there is one.

It's all pretty basic stuff in my opinion - be respectful of the other side in a disagreement, listen carefully with an open mind and look for common ground on which to build an agreement. While that may not solve 100percent of your disagreements, it will solve enough of the day to day disagreements and leave you with the time and wherewithal to handle the really crazy ones. And, if all else fails, there is Glenlivet.

Be sure to check Ramana's Musings to see what he has to say about disagreements. And Happy New Year to you all


  1. POTUS 45 seems to be disagreeing with everyone, including many outside the USA! He will be talked about for decades!

    And good listening to Dan Fogelberg after a long time. He is not very popular here.

  2. "And, if all else fails, there is Glenlivet."
    aha! so THAT is why that was in the Marine's cart at the BX! LOL!
    we saw Vice over the weekend. I wasn't sure what to expect. but I thought it was well done. Christian Bale is amazing. can't wait to see what you think about it. there is one scene that is like watching a nail being hammered home. when they're ordering in a restaurant and the waiter is listing what's on the 'menu.' it's priceless.

  3. In Indonesia, I have never heard that political disagreement caused shutdown of public services. I'm just confused that can happen in America.

    Anyway, Merry Christmas to you, Shackman and your family, and all readers here.

    1. thisis the third time the governmenthas been shut down since Trump becale President. Happy New Year!!