The road to hell is paved with......
Intent is not an excuse for actions. gone awry. To mean well is not necessarily to do well. It may well somehow reduce the consequences for said action but there're no guarantees.
We've all been there at some point. Something has happened that begs for action/response and in trying to do the right thing we makethings worse. Hurt someone's feelings. Make a disasterous business decision.
Brings to mind the so-called Obamacare initiative we are facing in this country, Typical political fubar scenario. In trying to make healthcare more affordable to many we now face a system more expensive and consequences not imagined as fast food and some restaurant employers begin to cut hours of employees to eliminate the necessity of providing healthcare. Many workers will now be even further under-em[ployes as a resuly of this well intentioned mandate. I merely use this as an example - discussion of the merits of the program are for another time and place.
How about the doctor or good samaritan who gets sued for attempting to aid the victim of an accident on the side of the road. It' possible and it has happened. Makes you want to rush right over and provide first said - doesn't it? It may surprise you to know that the unintended consequence I am speaking of is the reluctance to provide first aid thanks to the well intentioned laws that allow lawsuits in every imaginable scenario.
Every action - besides having an equal and opposite reaction - has a risk/reward relationship attached to it. Is the reward worth the risk? That's what you must decide. In the case of aiding someone in distress I am not trained in first aid so my decision is automatically to provide comfort by being there and seeking assistance from someone who is qualified. Call 911, etc.
I have no doubt we've all suffered an attack of foot-in-mouth disease and offended someone unintentionally. We can only hope that if the offended party is a friend they are a true-enough friend to forgive your transgression. It may take a while but a real friend will come around. Someone else may not but hopefully the unintended result makes you think about what transpired and makes you less likely to repeat the offense.
My bottom line? It is better to try and do the right thing in every scenario. The right thing may not be as appealing as something else but it is still the right thing. Intent does matter to the way you live your life. In that very broadest sense it is always best to be well intentioned. The negative fallout - over the course of a life - pales in comparison to the good you can accomplish.
To see what the other LBC folk think, please check out Delirious, gaelikaa, Grannymar, Maxi, Maria SF, Padmum, Paul, Ramana, The Old Fossil and Will