I certainly hope not.
Future shock. I've mentioned it before. Things change so rapidly it becomes almost impossible to keep up with it. It's a fast paced, hectic world full of stress and strain. To stop and smell the roses - as it were - is more important than ever. Otherwise you can easily get caught up in one of the many traps lying in wait.
A classic example - as most of you know I recently lost my wife to Huntington's disease. I most definitely had made the changes necessary to care for her during this ordeal - I have worked exclusively from home for over three years while being her primary caretaker.
None of that mattered in the days after she passed. Nothing could have prepared me for the emotions and loneliness that followed. A week or so after her death I got an email from my friend Dave - a fellow I have been friends with for 55 years or so. The email was straightforward and heartfelt, expressing his sorrow over my loss. But the last line was the kicker - he and Brian - another friend of the same length of time - the three of us were 5th grade classmates - would be out to see me the next Saturday. They'd let me know when they would arrive as soon as travel arrangements were finalized. The next day another friend - Rick - emailed he'd be coming as well but because his dance troupe was performing on Saturday he'd be arriving on Sunday.
Dave is an architect - here's some info on an important project he and his firm helped spearhead - the fellow speaking at theionset is Dave.
Brian is a dentist with a very successful practice in Palo Alto plus he is involved with the American Dental Association in a big way and visits offices and meetings around the country regularly. He flew in to visit me in lieu of returning home from one such visit.
Rick is retired from the park service - he is the Ranger Rick I've mentioned in the past - and he now has a Polynesian Dance Troupe - a Hālau and is a successful kumu hula - spreading the culture of Polynesia - something that has always been his passion. Rick is the gray-bearded fellow top left.
These guys took time out of their busy lives to simply hang out with a grieving friend. Over 3 days we laughed, a lot, shed a few tears and basically they got me going again. A clear example of what can be accomplished when you are NOT too busy to do what is important. What they did meant the world to me and rest assured if I am ever able to do something for them or any other of my real friends the lesson of what they did will not be lost on me. In the terminology so favored by the youth of today - these guys are trully BFFs in every possible way. By the way - they all live in California.
Thanks again guys.