You'll never regret being kind so make being kind a habit - you'll find that is a good life plan to follow. If nothing else, it is a good formula for the rest of your life. Rather than regretting every questionable decision you make, put it in the experience column of the spreadsheet of your life. Make it a learning experience and try to not repeat the mistake again.
Had a bad breakup? Move on. I have found this song to be helpful a couple of times when things didn't work out in a relationship.
I have been a John Denver fan since I first heard this next song about an epiphany a man has when he fist recognizes the beauty and grace of nature in the rocky mountains.
It is normal to have some regrets in life, just do not let them control you or weigh you down, Chalk them up to experience and try not to repeat them. There is plenty of good in this crazy world - even in these trying times.
That's my quick shack take on regret. Don't live a life of regret - file the regrets away as experiences that helped make you the person you are and keep moving forward one step at a time. I must confess - my biggest recurring regret is to not keep my weight under better control. Make that control - anything would be better, alas, it remains to this day an issue. That itself is part of the reason I have carried the dumb jock persona intermingled with the jolly giant persona all these years.
Be sure to check Ramana's Musings to see what Ramana has to say. See ya next week, same bat time, same bat channel for another 2-on-1 blog where Ramana and I tackle the same topic to give you different takes on the subject.
As usual, the choice of music is impeccable. I agree that "to live a life filled with nothing but regret is absolutely not a way to live either. In fact, trapping yourself in the past with regret and fear of the future is a sure fire formula for failure." You have articulated it very well and I compliment you for it.
ReplyDeleteI try and live without regrets and fear of the future and by and large seem to have succeeded. To eliminate both will take more spiritual work and I am at it. Hopefully, before too long I will be able to reach that stage. In the meanwhile, one day at a time, is good enough for me.
There is not enough time left for the spiritual work it would take for me.
DeleteI have very few regrets in my life, and I'm not lying. I think my only serious regret is not making more of a fuss about my boarding school and demanding to be moved to another school that was more suited to my personality. Or alternatively just running away and refusing to go back. But then again it was fear of my father that stopped me being more forthright, so regret doesn't really come into it.
ReplyDeleteAs far as my adult life is concerned, I have no regrets about anything. Whatever situation is in, I deal with it as best I can. If it turns out I mishandled it, then I simply chalk it up to experience, as you say, and move on. A misjudgment is not really a cause for regret.
A misjudgment is not really a cause for regret.
DeleteNot usually but on occasion
I don't think too much about it. at this age what is the point?
ReplyDeletebut I do have three major regrets in my life. I have quit trying to figure out the why and wherefore of each one. I just decided long ago to own them. if I spent too much time on them I would be cheating myself out of what's been a really wonderful life!
and I also love your choice of songs. beautiful!
owning them is the key to a successful life tammy and you have a bunch ofcaring friends so you have done well
DeleteThanks Chuck for another thought provoking blog. Most of my regrets come from the poor decisions of youth. Wisdom does seem to come with age.I appreciate your comment that we never regret being kind and I do try and make that a habit. Thanks also for the John Denver music.
ReplyDeleteTruth be told, I always kinda regretted letting that short blonde gf get away butthings turned out OK :)
DeleteI meant to say, I'm Sorry is a lovely, very touching song.
ReplyDeleteh Nick - it is a nice tune
DeleteI, too, like John Denver’s music — too bad he died so young as he did. As for regrets, I don’t waste much time or energy thinking of choices I made in those terms. Why regret since there’s no way to know if a different choice had been made but what the results might have turned out worse? I can regret some things that happened in my life but they were not of my choosing and were beyond my control.
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